Memory of Ji-chan

It's been so far long since Ji-chan's passing. It was so hard to overcome.... and it still be. Well, I'm trying to make myself better.
爺ちゃんが他界してから随分経ちました。気持ちの整理をつけるのが難しくて、まだまだ乗り越えられずにいますが、少しでも向上するよう頑張ってます。

Obituary is not so common unless celebrities in Japan. Generally, we have many memorial services after the funeral. Like the first 7th day, the 49th one, first memorial anniversary day etc.
In my family, we didn't have anything particular since we followed the desire of the deceased.
His ashes were laid to rest on June 2.  This is the common way for us. At the funeral, his body was cremated. It's our low and we need to have the cremation permit when we have the one. Then we keep the ashes at home until the 49th memorial day. But we can lay the ashes earlier if we want to.
On his 49th memorial day was June 16th, the Father's day. It must be something.
日本では、死亡記事は一般的に著名人でない限り行いません。その代わりなのでしょうか、葬儀後に初七日、四十九日、一周忌などを行います。
我が家では故人の遺志に従い、特別なことは何もしませんでした。
納骨は６月２日に行いました。ごく一般的なやり方です。葬儀で遺体は荼毘にふされます。これは法で定められており、許可証も必要です。そして遺骨は四十九日まで自宅に置くのが一般的ですが、それより早く納骨してもいいのです。
６月１６日父の日が丁度四十九日にあたりました。特別な縁を感じます。
その２週間前に納骨を済ませました。

This is the memorial piece for him.
爺ちゃん（亡き父）を偲んで

Do not stand at my grave and weep,

I am not there; I do not sleep.

I am a thousand winds that blow,

I am the diamond glints on snow,

I am the sun on ripened grain,

I am the gentle autumn rain.

When you awaken in the morning’s hush

I am the swift uplifting rush

Of quiet birds in circling flight.

I am the soft starlight at night.

Do not stand at my grave and cry,

I am not there; I did not die.

                          Rest in Peace
　　　　　　　　        合掌
                          I always love you.